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Quick note: Mars leaves Leo

I’ve been mostly keeping quiet whilst healing up – have been a little unwell (just need some time and space). In the meantime, I’ve been paying close attention to people and world events.

But some stuff you just can’t bottle up.

There’s an insane level of entitlement and a lack of connection in so many right now. Good people are getting very very triggered by sheer insensitivity and callousness.

Politically, states show little to no sign of (similarly) acknowledging the sentiments of their populace. Recent events in Kashmir, Hong Kong, Zimbabwe show such trends.

Yes – there’s of course some light and some people who are moving through this Leo-energy with grace, but a lot aren’t.

The ugliness of ‘my view is more important than your view’, ‘my opinions are more important than your loved experience’, ‘my right to rule is more important than your freedom’ comes through again and again.

And it’s going to continue to do so till the end of August.

I’ve been doing my best to not fall into those patterns by pulling back a little and speaking only when I felt it absolutely needed.

I came across this comment to one of my videos that finally made me go ‘ah, fuck it: this needs saying’.

Long story short, an African-American mother was sharing her pain, grief, and fear at just sending her child to school each day. She was scared. The gun violence she’s witnessing made her scared.

And that is completely alright. That’s a very understandable, human, experience. And I did my best to share space with her.

And then … This delightful comment appears about how she’s not tapping into her magic, identity is her choice, fear is her choice, etc. etc.

I finally decided to open my mouth and explained how those comments, in context, were deeply insensitive to a person’s pain. Got an even more callous, disconnected reply.

Pretty words about manifestation and such, but no real humanity. No understanding of the grief this mother felt.

Just the need to say ‘I am more spirituality aware than you’.

And sadly that’s the kind of spirituality without compassion that arises when we erase an understanding of privilege and how that influences the individual worlds we inhabit.

It’s also a pretty shitty use of the Leo energy, which is at a peak right now as Mars is at 29 Leo. It will shift into Virgo within the next 5 hours.

Other planets will follow suit as the month progresses.

Hopefully we can all remember to be human. And to actually speak to each other rather than at each other.

We’re all entitled to our opinions, but truly:

Think before you speak.

This isn’t a contest between right and wrong, better or worse.

You don’t ‘win’ by ‘proving’ another person wrong.

We win when someone is willing to expand their awareness (perhaps your own) – and sometimes that means speaking up for those who are being cast in the shadow of another’s hubris

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

Mars (21 Leo) inconjunct Pluto (21 Capricorn): A Call to Inspired Action

There has been an energy of (amplified) intensity moving across our planet over the past 48 hours (and it will continue to). This is the Mars-Pluto inconjunct: An invitation to act, to be able and willing to engage with the depths of our own psyche.

This is a highly triggering alignment for a variety of reasons. Mars relates to our assertiveness, our agency and ability to act in the world, our masculine / yang archetype. It strongly influences our health and life-force. Pluto is essentially related to the Shadow, hidden insecurities, hidden riches, violence, weaponry, war, death, regeneration, alchemy, rebirth.

The inconjunct is an astrological bridge that brings the energies of Mars/Pluto, Leo/Capricorn together in ways that are uncomfortable or disquieting to say the least. And in extreme cases – be it the deployment of 10,000 additional troops and 5 dead bodies at the India-Pakistan border, two mass shootings in the USA (Ohio & Texas) – this alignment can lead to outbreaks of violence at the personal and political level. Together, they spell out the words ´toxic masculinity´- bearing in mind that this is a pattern of behavior and beliefs that anyone can hold (irrespective of gender).

There´s of course other contexts we can talk about: intensifying protests in Hong Kong, fires in Siberia and the Arctic, ecological activism (and attacks on indigenous peoples) in South America, and so on, and so on, and so on.

Whilst I´m not saying all this is caused by this one alignment, it can be certainly something that fans the flames of war, or at the very least greater posturing that can lead to violence, harm, injury, and so on. It is advisable to be mindful of your body and what you do with it at this time.

Now some of you will be experiencing the positive aspects of this alignment – and that´s great. There´s scope for creatively transforming these shadow aspects and our relationships with them. But if you are blessed in being able to act, with energy and integrity, perhaps do so in a way that can help the collective, rather than hinder it.

The spiritual journey has many prescriptions for what a person can do, as part of their karma-drama-ride through the wheel of incarnation. Some may say that it´s just enough to take care of yourself, or of your family … others say honor your community, your nation … others say heal the world … others align with more celestial experiences. Some of these paths will ask you to turn a blind eye to the world as it is not your responsibility to fix, that acceptance is the true path.

An an intellectual level, I can see the merit of this path – but at an emphatic level, I cannot (personally) condone a path that, in fact, does nothing to mitigate some of the violence, harm, ecological degradation that the planet is seeing. Not to mention the bodies of the young (and old) that pile up in acts of senseless violence.

There are of course scholars and practitioners who understand the path of radical acceptance as a precursor to engagement with the world. Sadly the term (as with many) is used to perpetuate not doing anything at all.

It´s easy to preach acceptance when the problem isn´t in your backyard, when it´s not your children, when it´s not people ´who count´.

And sadly, it will be. These alignments aren´t in isolation – and they will continue – especially in the transformative portal that is 2020.

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A poem by Warsan Shire comes to mind (´What they did Yesterday Afternoon´):

i’ve been praying,
and these are what my prayers look like;
dear god
i come from two countries
one is thirsty
the other is on fire
both need water.

later that night
i held an atlas in my lap
ran my fingers across the whole world
and whispered
where does it hurt?

it answered
everywhere
everywhere
everywhere.

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So … truly, what does one do?

There´s no one good answer to this.

The only thing that I can think of as a general starting point that can help people find their own answers is to stay open.

Keep your heart open. Be willing to feel that collective grief.

Not to carry it on your shoulders, not to be weighed down and broken by it all …

But as a means of recognition. Witnessing. Holding space.

As the precursor to alchemy and transformation.

Nothing truly changes if we are unwilling to recognize it.

So often we´re overwhelmed by our own emotions and processing and trauma that it just feels like too much to even consider what´s going on everywhere else.

And yet this is exactly what we´re being asked to do.

To be willing to act as true witness.

And to engage where you can, for witnessing the problem does not resurrect the dead or rejuvenate the forests.

Part of the collective inertia that exists comes from the idea that we are powerless to make such changes. Some elements of spiritual rhetoric will have you believe that typing ´thoughts and prayers´ are enough. Whilst there is real magic in this world, it still takes an action to make that intention manifest – be it ritual, a Reiki symbol, time, and focused intent.

Some elements of political rhetoric will have you believe that the problem is just too big for any one person to do anything at all. And that too is a fiction. One ripple set in motion at the right time makes waves. Another ripple carries it forward, and the next, and so on. It´s not the individual alone that makes change, it´s the chain-reaction they are able to participate in (or not).

And if change were never possible, many of us would not even have those basic civil rights and liberties (which others are seeking to erode and push back, yet again). The fact that changes have happened in the world is proof that you too can make a difference.

Sometimes we fear all the shadow that comes up with doing good work in the world and engaging with its negativity. We tell ourselves that our energy will be ´tainted´ if we engage.

Bullshit. Why come here then?

Look at the great mystics of the past: they were not adherents of the system of their times

It was turn the other cheek, not turn a blind eye to another person´s suffering.

I see what´s happening with the Mauna Kea protests as a powerful symbol of engagement, conscious protest and potential for ways that inspired people can come together and resist wrongdoing.

They´ve even built a school to help teach children their traditions, as part of their protest. Famous actors like Dwayne Johnson and Jason Momoa (both excellent models for healthy masculinity, btw. ) have also stepped up to show their support. Now that´s a great example of how actors (Leo) and creative people can join the process of contest and protest (Capricorn).

Let´s take a page from that and think about ways we can engage collectively and do what we can for a world in transformation.

Blessings,


Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

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Whilst the work I channel, intuit and figure out ultimately comes from Spirit, it still comes through me-as-co-creative a-divine-spark. For legal purposes I share these terms – and I hope you can understand the energetic basis of doing so. We all have to be honored for what we do, and what we bring. That way we keep things sustainable and in integrity.

This post and text is original research material and is copyrighted. You are allowed to share this material for personal, non-commercial and educational use with the proper citations, references and links / tags back to my website and/or my FB page or profile. Clicking ´Share´ on FB or ´Reblog´ on WordPress would be most appropriate. Please obtain my permission first if you want to use this material on your workshop, blog, organization, webpage, book, seminar or for any commercial purpose. All information provided, be it through sessions conducted or this post is non-liable and is not intended to replace professional legal, medical, psychological, psychiatric and/or financial counsel. How you choose to act on this information is up to your own free will and is entirely your responsibility.

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When ´Oneness´ Is used to Erase Voice & Agency: The Politics of Spiritual Platitudes in the ´New Age´ Movement

Today I shared a phenomenal poem I read on Facebook written by Ally Lopez. It spoke of the anguish indigenous peoples and other minorities feel when New Age motto-s are used to justify cultural appropriation. And the irony that the descendants of those who enslaved them and took their land are seeking to take their culture (still).

(Link with comments: https://www.facebook.com/bairavee.balasubramaniam/posts/2054455474658437 )

I contextualized it as a powerful catalyst for discourse, etc. and shared it – and we had some insightful commentary from all sides. Some beautiful practitioners came forth to share their world. These were women who were doing their best to acknowledge their own privilege as descendants of those who colonized and lived off the land of others. I fully recommend reading the thread.

But there was hate, vitriol and a lot of defensive white anger that did come through (one more so in my personal inbox – she threw every spiritual buzzword / accusation she could at me, except the kitchen sink).

Let´s just say I didn´t feel a need to sugar-coat my responses – One does not require foul language to make it very clear where another has stepped over a line.

Some people are angry that I´m highlighting these issues. It was easier for them to see me as a good astrologer, as long as I kept silent on real-world issues. And every time I tried in the past –

I was told how this was lowering my vibration.

(Good, I came back to do work here, not float off into outer space)

I was told how this was divisive

(Not in the least. What´s divisive is how some people´s experiences of feeling hurt and their culture misrepresented is seen as less important than those who benefit from commodifying it)

I was told how this was ´distracting´ me from my true purpose (to be this elevated Guru type figure)

(Bullshit. I decide what my purpose is.)

I was told how it´s because we are all One.

(Does that include One bank account? Does that include One homestead? Are the people profiting from cultural appropriation doing anything to help those communities and indigenous cultures they are taking from?)

How there is no black and white.

(Please tell me that when no one has to be afraid of being pulled over by the cops for driving a car, trying to enter their own home, trying to study at a library, trying to go to Starbucks, etc. just because they are racially profiled to be dangerous?)

How we had to ´stop playing the victim´ when speaking about the pain of seeing indigenous cultures diluted and sold, or when speaking about colonialism, slavery and institutional privileges that still result.

(And yes … how just is the world when the privileged get to decide when a person should and should not be a victim of historical injustices? And since when was being a victim of oppression something a person ´played´ at?)

How there was no privilege and we had to transcend it all with Love

(Please improve the lives of those marginalized and oppressed in your own neighbourhood in some significant way before speaking of transcending privilege. Act on what you´re saying, don´t just say it. Also, Love doesn´t tolerate abuse and Love does not stay quiet when a Beloved is in Pain)

They would rather I shut up about what´s happening on Earth and tell them what the skies are saying.

They would rather I speak in generalizations that did not hit home and did not make them question their own complicity in perpetuating hierarchy (albeit in the guise of the spiritual).

To the people trying to shut down those who dare to open a space for brave, honest dialogue and communication, I ask you this:

When did spirituality become yet another reason to bury one´s head in the sand?

When did One-ness come to mean that the voice of pluralism, of the Many, ceased to exist?

It´s called Unity IN Diversity, not without it.

There´s a lot of unpacking we need to do with at the words that are now the mainstreamed vocabulary of the New Age movement. So many of these words have their origins in the civilising mission of Empire – and they´re still being used the same way when someone questions that usage.

So really – is it not reproducing some (if not all) of the old power-plays of church and state that it claims to have transcended ?

So what then is the politics that cuts across the movement as a Whole?

Are we really that surprised to see the prevalence of spiritual bypassing, narcissism and fakery in context of that?

Wasn´t that the EXACT problem that was seen in older, patriarchal systems of control through state and religion?

Think about it …

Now this is not to say that people exploring their spirituality are all idiots or sheep or steeped in privilege. There are some wonderful people who do this work with great sincerity and humility. Across the colour spectrum.

And I can tell you they´re never the ones trying to tell me (and others) to ´transcend it all´. They´re the ones who do the most work in understanding, connecting and giving back.

Now in the greatest context of my work, of course I know these discussions will alienate some people.

Truthfully, I am okay with that.

I am okay with my work standing for something that was just, balanced and connected – rather than trying to filter it through the language of acceptability and centrism that just ends up getting tolerated because people want to get what they can out of it.

I can tell you that none of the people who feel uncomfortable with my work have ever materially supported me in the past, or a likely to have done so in the future. Because that kind of entitlement is equally what their rhetoric justifies them getting away with.

I´m not really losing anything of value here, but am consolidating the space that I hold and who holds it together with me.

(Plus – I have a program that gives a person even more astrological depth and insight that I did before – and people can join that if they want to)

But to wrap this up …

One of the comments I get (which I find hilarious) is when my ability to see these patterns and articulate them is seen as being ´a know-it-all´, or ´elitist´…

The same perception and intellect that was able to delivery insightful astrological posts was once desired … and now ridiculed because it points out an inconvenient truth?

Check your privilege …

Check the politics embedded in your idea of what spirituality should be …

Is what I would say …

Blessings,

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

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TERMS OF USE AND SHARING:

Whilst the work I channel, intuit and figure out ultimately comes from Spirit, it still comes through me-as-co-creative a-divine-spark. For legal purposes I share these terms – and I hope you can understand the energetic basis of doing so. We all have to be honored for what we do, and what we bring. That way we keep things sustainable and in integrity.

This post and text is original research material and is copyrighted. You are allowed to share this material for personal, non-commercial and educational use with the proper citations, references and links / tags back to my website and/or my FB page or profile. Clicking ´Share´ on FB or ´Reblog´ on WordPress would be most appropriate. Please obtain my permission first if you want to use this material on your workshop, blog, organization, webpage, book, seminar or for any commercial purpose. All information provided, be it through sessions conducted or this post is non-liable and is not intended to replace professional legal, medical, psychological, psychiatric and/or financial counsel. How you choose to act on this information is up to your own free will and is entirely your responsibility.

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Quick Note on the Leo New Moon

Quick heads up on the New Moon about to go exact at 8 degrees Leo. It squares Uranus at 6 Taurus and trines Chiron at 5 Aries.


Whilst it’s all about the Heart, the Level of Consciousness which we are asked to access this energy at goes a step further.


Whatever creative and healing work you do expands your Heart-Field. This in turn influences the Collective, which in turn influences you. It’s a co-constructive relationship.


Whatever is coming up : Know that however personal it may feel, it’s also a lot bigger than you. We’re all playing out some version of it or another.


Let the energy flow and turn to creative, expressive, healing modalities or activities that being you back to that stage of pure Heart-Presence.


You don’t need too much here. Just Being will do.


Especially as Mercury stations direct on the same day. There´s a phase shift in the way we experience and express energy going on – so don´t try to predict or hold onto one way of going through this journey at this time.


(It´s certainly why I´m scrapping hours of work and redoing my monthly overview)


Keep your eyes open in the wider world to see what artists, dramatists, children, leaders and inspirational figures are doing.


It’ll come back to revisit us in one form or another during the Leo Full Moon in Feb 2020.


Blessings,


Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD

The Sky Priestess

Changes in the direction of my work (with special guest Kitty)

Whilst astrology remains a larger guiding influence in my thoughts, as you would have noticed as of late, fewer of my public posts are going to be about that.

And whilst this is not a new change, it´s certainly been one in the making.

You´ll get a mixture of astrological, spiritual, and political reflections here and on my page and website.

Only because all of them are working with one another at different levels of awareness.

Those of you who want access to my more focused and in depth astrological reports are invited to join the monthly Tier23 program. That´s where it´ll be mostly about the stars and planets.

Why this change of focus you might ask?

Because all of our knowledge about metaphysics, meditation and stars won´t do a damn thing if we can´t be decent, civil people. Willing to look at ourselves and do something useful in the world (however big or small it may be)

And I´ve found that too much astrology itself becomes another tool of justification. I did this / The world is this way because of X, Y, Z – there´s a fatalism in that kind of thinking – and frankly isn´t the best use of the discipline at all.

And I´ve found too much of intellectual focus on the spiritual disconnects us from being people, in the here and now. The language becomes used as a form of bypass, even as the concepts scream out for greater awareness.

Basically, I´m saying that I see these tools being used to promote escapism and a lack of personal responsibility. Despite the fact they hold the keys to greater liberation.

And the spiritual one upmanship – my god. That is so rampant right now. If people can´t have a conversation without needing to prove who´s better or more aware …

What hope do we have?

Lets all pull back a little.

Whilst astrology, spirituality, divination, metaphysics (as human beings understand and practise it) and so on are valuable tools in the journey of life, they´re not the end-all-be-all.

*gasp*

Special Bonus: One, no two … eh three general rules of engagement we can all live by 😀

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

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Why the Idea and Rhetoric of Sovereignty in a Spiritual Context is a Toxic One

The idea and rhetoric of ´sovereignty´ in spiritual practice is a toxic one.

It aggrandises the myth of rugged individualism and makes it all about ourselves – yet again – at the end of the day.

The very word ´sovereign´ has cultural and political roots in the political expansion of the West and its claim to dominion over its populace (and colonies overseas).

It´s all about being superior, ruler, master, etc. It played a huge role in the expansion of Empire and was used to legitimise conquest.

Frankly, it has no place in the language of spirituality – if our aim is to truly dissolve hierarchies and divisions of power.

It also ignores the colonial histories and experiences woven into the use of the term and the spiritual echoes it conjures.

It´s a term that was imported from the practice of statecraft!

The language we use determines the way we think about ourselves and our relationship (in this context) with Spirit.

We are not masters and controllers of the Elements,

Or the Universe itself.

We cannot exist in alienation from the world around us, nor can we continue to do so by claiming a false sense of authority over it.

(That´s what led to this mess)

What people are (usually) trying to say by being ´sovereign´ is that we made certain choices to be here.

And no matter what has happened in your life, you have the choice to make a change.

But the terminology gets used in ways that … really don´t add up.

And adds further confusion to the chaos.

It creates an unrealistic sense of entitlement and (equally) responsibility over forces that are not yours to own or control.

And yet again (as we see in the liberal philosophical thought of the Western tradition), it centers the Conscious Self – to the exclusion of other aspects of Self.

It forgets the unconscious self, the supra-conscious, the imprint or energetic architecture of past-experiences, cosmological forces, planetary awareness and collective movements.

Because when we consider all of these in context, there is no way that sovereignty can be claimed without being fundamentally hollow.

This is not to say that the same use of terminology does not occur in other contexts: Spirituality was colonized and stripped of so much of its essence so very long ago …

And we´re trying to put the pieces back together – back to the space where no words were needed .. just surrender and communion with a greater Cosmic tapestry of experience.

As long as the heat of the Sun, or the cold of the wind affects you – you can lay no claim over it.

As long as the oxygen in the air continues to fill your lungs to give you the breath of life, you cannot claim dominion over it.

As long as celestial karmic patterns impel you to certain patterns of being or choosing, you cannot claim authority over it.

What you – can and must – lay claim to – is your right to choose your responses to the evolutionary possibilities that arise out of these larger contexts.

And to begin the necessary work to find a greater scope of what life can offer and experience with You.

That means knowing what you can control, and what you can´t.

And what you can get some help or perspective with, and what´s bigger than all of us.

That becomes a lot easier when you realise that there is no King, Queen, Master or Servant.

No context, in other words, that would necessitate the enforced fiction of ´The Sovereign´.

There´s just us and the Universe.

We´re all in this together.

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

Post & Text © Bairavee Balasubramaniam, 2019. All rights reserved.

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TERMS OF USE AND SHARING:

Whilst the work I channel, intuit and figure out ultimately comes from Spirit, it still comes through me-as-co-creative a-divine-spark. For legal purposes I share these terms – and I hope you can understand the energetic basis of doing so. We all have to be honored for what we do, and what we bring. That way we keep things sustainable and in integrity.

This post and text is original research material and is copyrighted. You are allowed to share this material for personal, non-commercial and educational use with the proper citations, references and links / tags back to my website and/or my FB page or profile. Clicking ´Share´ on FB or ´Reblog´ on WordPress would be most appropriate. Please obtain my permission first if you want to use this material on your workshop, blog, organization, webpage, book, seminar or for any commercial purpose. All information provided, be it through sessions conducted or this post is non-liable and is not intended to replace professional legal, medical, psychological, psychiatric and/or financial counsel. How you choose to act on this information is up to your own free will and is entirely your responsibility.

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ONTOLOGICAL, NORMATIVE & POLITICAL DIMENSIONS OF EMOTIONAL VALIDITY: A SLIPPERY SLOPE

I dislike using the term ´emotional validity´ because it sends mixed messages. At the ontological level (the nature of being), it claims that emotions are real. And at the normative level, it is taken to mean that those real emotions are accurate. But they´re not the same thing.

In this piece, I wear multiple hats: facilitator, spiritualist, political scientist, person – and so on. It´s a little more discursive and explorative, so you´re not going to find hard and fast answers here.

When we talk about something being valid, we talk about how it is accurately representative, legitimate, legally acceptable, sound and so on. It comes from the root word ´validus´ – which means ´strength´ in Latin.

When we talk about emotional validity, we refer to the process of accepting a person´s feelings for what they are. Though we do not need to agree with those emotions and feelings.

The ideal use of the term understands that it is about acceptance of a person´s right to feel what they feel. But not to see those emotions as being accurate or representative of themselves, or of others.

And that´s where things get messy.

Because validation is not purely about the right to be, but also a reference to accuracy and strength / solidity – it carries with it undertones that can easily be mis-used in an emotional context.

As a facilitator, I see many different kinds of individuals – all with their own stories and baggage and gifts and joys and sadness.

And whilst I´m happy accepting people have the right to feel what they feel…

I can´t always get behind what they´re feeling. I can´t echo what they want to hear – because frankly that´s not what I´m here to do.

And that´s where the term gets slippery.

It is one thing to accept the right to feel. 
It is another thing to justify that feeling or emotion by presenting it as accurate.

That comes through the way that validity is both a right to be, but at the same time, a claim to representative accuracy. Its right of presence emerges out of its representative power.

If something was not accurate or representative, it could not be valid (legitimately present).

(The scientific / psychometric definitions of the term spell this out a little clearer)

And if you know anything about emotions, you know that accuracy isn´t a part of it.

People feel what they feel.

Sometimes it reflects what´s happening. (A surprise birthday party makes you feel joy because you see that people care about you)

And sometimes it doesn´t . (Feelings of intense longing for an emotionally absent partner because you believe that your love will change them)

From an esoteric (and scientific) perspective, a lot of what we ´feel´ can be linked to emotional patterns carried through the ancestral line. Science calls this the imprint of inherited trauma.

The work spiritualists and healers do helps a person move through, or even dissolve some aspects of their attachment to these patterns – so they can choose their own responses to the world as sovereign individuals. (At least the way I see it)

We see that a person´s feelings about something, no matter how difficult or intense, can shift rapidly once ancestral clearing/healing/integration/dissolution is done.

So how do we consider a person´s expression of emotion valid, i.e. a true barometer of who they are deep within?

Let´s take a more current example: trauma-bonding in relationships with intermittent reinforcement, coupled with narcissistic abuse

Literally – a person´s brain gets rewired into patterns of flight/fight, endorphin highs and lows that gets them ´addicted´ to experiences that are damaging for them

And let´s say the person subject to abuse comes in and waxes eloquent about her partner on the good days. And justifies the bad days with some strange equivalence of how she deserved it, how her partner needed help, x, y, z, a b, c ….

( You can make the same case for anyone dealing with any kind of addiction – their feelings about, say, alcohol may be truly joyful and committed …. is that something you want to validate, i.e. render true and reinforce? )

What about something a lot more common? Where someone who has been taught they´re worthless continues to feel like they don´t deserve anything good in their lives?

I would say that raises serious ethical questions for any kind of counselor or facilitator.

In the clinical sense, a good counselor sees emotional validation as a means to allow a person to feel what they´re feeling. Which is fine. Which is good. Which can be the prerequisite to change.

But – at the same time – they´re not saying that those feelings (be it through addiction, pressure from family/ancestry, trauma-bonding, etc.) are who a person truly is. Or that they are truly accurate representations of the situation they are in in their lives.

And that´s where the term gets muddled in everyday usage and understanding.

And why I feel ´validity´ isn´t the best term possible.

Because the moment we say something is valid, we´re also saying that ´it´s right´ …

It´s just the way we use the term …

We see the same slippage of terminology in the political sphere:

Where your right to believe something is translated into ´what you believe is right´.

Because hey … everyone´s opinion is ´valid´ isn´t it . .

And it´s such a dangerous slippage to make: From a right to be, to the certainty of rightness. One is an ontological claim, the other is a normative one.

Be it in the political sphere, or in the life of your emotions.

Just think about how many uses of the term ´right´exist and you´ll see a similar slippage at play. Remember that ´right´ comes from ´rectus´ which means ´ruled´ in Latin.

A lot of the language we use in rightness, legitimacy, authority, soundness, validity, etc. has its roots in political philosophy and the way the state establishes the terms through which it constructs an ´absolute´identity.

So really, there is a subtle politics of language at play – even here.

I think what we´re trying to say is …

It´s OK to feel what you´re feeling right now. 
You have a right to your emotions.

But your emotions are not always right, accurate, or predictive of your past, present and future.

By airing my emotions surrounding this terminology and its easy slippage, I hope to create space for a better, and more sensitive phrase to emerge.

That´s something that can certain help counselors and facilitators better manage their relationships with those who seek a richer, fuller, emotional experience.

Blessings,

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

Post & Text © Bairavee Balasubramaniam, 2019. All rights reserved.

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TERMS OF USE AND SHARING:

Whilst the work I channel, intuit and figure out ultimately comes from Spirit, it still comes through me-as-co-creative a-divine-spark. For legal purposes I share these terms – and I hope you can understand the energetic basis of doing so. We all have to be honored for what we do, and what we bring. That way we keep things sustainable and in integrity.

This post and text is original research material and is copyrighted. You are allowed to share this material for personal, non-commercial and educational use with the proper citations, references and links / tags back to my website and/or my FB page or profile. Clicking ´Share´ on FB or ´Reblog´ on WordPress would be most appropriate. Please obtain my permission first if you want to use this material on your workshop, blog, organization, webpage, book, seminar or for any commercial purpose. All information provided, be it through sessions conducted or this post is non-liable and is not intended to replace professional legal, medical, psychological, psychiatric and/or financial counsel. How you choose to act on this information is up to your own free will and is entirely your responsibility.

Post & Text © Bairavee Balasubramaniam, 2019. All rights reserved

A FEW LESSONS TO REMEMBER WHEN WALKING WITH SPIRIT

The spiritual journey is one that lasts lifetimes. There are very few hard and fast rules, but rather a set of guidelines that most facilitators and seekers see general consensus on.

In this video, I share three key principles which can save seekers a lot of time and unnecessary confusion.

(1) Stay grounded. Listen to your body
(2) Know what you’re getting into. Do your ground-work.
(3) Don’t look. Let it come to you.

In an age where an increasing interest in spiritual experience has led to a booming spiritual marketplace – people are exposed to all kinds of modalities and facilitators of all kinds of backgrounds. We’re also seeing powerful waves of cosmic energy that intensify and accelerate experience, in ways we can’t really predict.

So it’s very, very important – now more so than ever – to stick to the basics. And learn them well.

Remember folks – it’s not a race or a competition – or some computer game where you ‘level up’ to meet the final boss and then ascend.

You don´t get extra points for going at it with all-out intensity, or making things harder on yourself than they need to be.

As with everything, it’s a lot more complex – and oddly enough – simple at the same time.

Blessings

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

www.bairaveebalasubramaniam.com

HAUMEA, ERIS & THE BIRTHING PANGS OF THE NEW WORLD: THE LUNAR ECLIPSE IN CAPRICORN (JULY 16-17 2019)

The Lunar Eclipse takes place at 21:38 UTC on July 16th 2019 at 24´4 Capricorn. It is a part of Saros Cycle 139, preceded by the eclipse on July 5th 2001 and is followed by the one on July 27th 2037. The energy of these events (and other eclipses in the series) flow as part of the same stream: they are interconnected. You will also see some elements of this eclipse as a natural unfolding of seeds set during the New Moon in Capricorn on January 5/6, 2019.

We have been prepping for this Eclipse for some time: and so none of its lessons are particularly new. Though it will take about a week for the Eclipse energy to subside … and the debris to settle.

With the North Node, Venus and Sun in Cancer (and previously Mars and Mercury), we´ve been working with the themes of what makes home, family, belonging and connectedness for some time now. With the South Node, Pluto and Saturn in Capricorn, we´ve already been exploring themes of power, institutionalization, structure, authority, hierarchy and legacy.

What makes this Eclipse pack a larger punch is the fact that the Moon (24 Capricorn) is conjunct Pluto (21 Capricorn). Pluto´s addition to this alignment adds a degree of depth, intensity, rawness and mystique that the Eclipse alone would not have (in the same way). We´re being asked to go even further within our most intimate processes, explorations and energetic arrangements. We´re confronted with the shadows of our past, our psyche, our ancestry, our karma, our finances, our sexuality, our inheritances, our cellular health, our bowels, our reproductive capacity (in more ways than one) – and so on.

There´s just so many ways these energies can express themselves – but a report like this is designed to give you a set of possible roadmaps. It is not to tell you how your life, or anyone else´s is set in stone.

On top of that, we also see the Sun, Moon and Pluto form a Grand Cardinal Cross with Eris (24 Aries) and Haumea (24 Libra) in the skies.

Eris´ energy is one that seeks to burn down a world that excludes the Feminine, often without regard to consequence or (from a human perspective) proportionality. For instance, Eris throws down the Golden Apple of Discord after she and her children are excluded from a wedding party. Her actions result in the Trojan War, and the many deaths associated with it.

In astrology, triggers to Eris can indicate the eruption of chaos, upheaval, war, strife: In short – Discord.

Whilst it´s not a bad thing to shake things up especially when the system is broken, the question of HOW we do so is as important as the COLLATERAL that follows.

Whilst this can certainly play out as flared tempers on the geopolitical stage, it can just as easily lead to irrational, damaging, knee-jerk reactions that can wreak havoc on one´s personal, professional and/or familial life. Or even the life of a nation and its people.

(Note: this is intensified by Pluto´s square to Eris, which will continue to play out at an exact degree in 2021! This is not the end of the flare-up phase!)

No matter how righteous or just your cause is – it pays to ask if violence and strife are the only means by which your goal can be attained. And whether your ends justifies the means.

Even if your answer is: Yes – it is worth taking the time to ask and answer that question to see if your righteous rage comes from a place of alignment – or are you acting from a place of triggers, hurt and pain? That doesn´t mean that your response is invalid.

But acting out of pain comes from a very different kind of awareness as coming from a place of love.

And truly …

Is there any real answer except Love?

Which brings me to our next astrological body ..

Haumea.

Haumea´s role is very different, and I´m glad she´s a part of this process. She is a Creatrix, a goddess from Hawaiian mythology who gives birth to many gods and goddesses from different parts of her Body. Pele, the goddess of volcanoes is one of them.

I see her role as both midwife and expectant mother, easing humanity through these birthing pains: as immense, and unbearable as they may seem.

She is what gives me hope that despite the cataclysmic potential of this Grand Cross, the Universal pan is one of continuity, hope, and the chance to birth a new future (humanity included).

This sentiment is certainly reinforced by the fact that Venus (16 Cancer) conjuncts the North Node (17 Cancer) and opposes Saturn (16 Capricorn) and the South Node (17 Capricorn) at the time of the Eclipse.

The Feminine, yet again, shows us the way forwards. And grants us a vision of a world that may be.

But for that to happen,

We really, really, need to think before we act at this time.

Let things unfold as they will at this moment of time and seek to observe, rather than react.

You need to know what larger context you´re choosing to engage (and the cards it holds) before making an effective intervention.

Losing your cool and rushing in headlong is counterproductive.

Aim to play the longer game: The Universe certainly does.

(And Haumea´s role in all this gives me hope that involves humanity´s continued survival: But I may just be being optimistic).

In any case, be mindful that this Eclipse energy will affect us all in different ways.

You can do your best, but you can´t expect others to.

Be aware of your own energetic boundaries and space.

Help others where you can, but not at the cost of your integrity and energy.

Those who are heavily triggered are advised to seek safe space and prioritize self-care.

You´re not really going to be doing much for the collective if you´re not able to manage your own energy. So do that first.

Aim to help when you can. And do so when that arises.

Give back to and support those who support you. That´s important.

It´s how you create a sustainable structure.

And not one riddled with inequalities (that´s how we got in this mess in the first place!)

That´s probably the most practical thing I can share with you right now.

Let things and people that need to leave your life, go.

Let yourselves leave things and people that no longer have a place in the life you´re creating.

If you can do that with grace, and come from a place of compassion as you do …

You´re already creating a better world.

Blessings

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD

The Sky Priestess

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Whilst the work I channel, intuit and figure out ultimately comes from Spirit, it still comes through me-as-co-creative a-divine-spark. For legal purposes I share these terms – and I hope you can understand the energetic basis of doing so. We all have to be honored for what we do, and what we bring. That way we keep things sustainable and in integrity.

This post and text is original research material and is copyrighted. You are allowed to share this material for personal, non-commercial and educational use with the proper citations, references and links / tags back to my website and/or my FB page or profile. Clicking ´Share´ on FB or ´Reblog´ on WordPress would be most appropriate. Please obtain my permission first if you want to use this material on your workshop, blog, organization, webpage, book, seminar or for any commercial purpose. All information provided, be it through sessions conducted or this post is non-liable and is not intended to replace professional legal, medical, psychological, psychiatric and/or financial counsel. How you choose to act on this information is up to your own free will and is entirely your responsibility.

Post & Text © Bairavee Balasubramaniam, 2019. All rights reserved

BUILD-UP TO THE ECLIPSE: NAVIGATE THROUGH YOUR EMOTIONS (12-13 July 2019)

There´s a little bit of a reprieve in the skies from the intense build-up to the Capricorn Lunar Eclipse. The Moon has left its Scorpionic depths and set its sights towards the mountain in Sagittarius. (It finally reaches the summit in Capricorn)

In the past few days, Scorpio´s energy has had all of us taking long, hard looks at what makes us tick, what we´ve neglected, ancestral/karmic patterns that need deeper spiritual cleansing / healing and so on. Sagittarius now asks us to put our general perspectives or philosophies of life back into focus.

Remember that Jupiter (15 Sag Rx) sits in its home of sign of Sagittarius, aspected via an inconjunct to the North Node (17 Cancer) .

When the way forwards is unclear, look to your emotions as an indicator of where you need to go next. It´s not about what you´re feeling at this instant moment, but what those feelings are asking you to do, or delve into, or accept, or feel through, etc. etc. etc.

Our paths at this time ask us to find the way home, back to our true emotional bodies and families.

And that doesn´t have to be the place we were born or the ancestry we were born into.

Remember that those circumstances relate to this incarnation: Your Soul is far older than that.

Some of you may also want to think about how you relate to the concept of nationhood, motherhood, domesticity, home management, nutrition, emotional awareness/processing, family/tribe/collective identities, and so on.

And some of you may just feel that it´s all too much, all at once. For some, it may even be physically manifested as pains, swelling, stomach upsets, and so on.

The key through this is to realize that you´re not going to get anywhere quickly if you don´t first accept where you are right now. Denial is a terrible co-navigator.

Accept your current feelings. But you don´t need to hold on to them. 
Sometimes just being willing to acknowledge that they are there facilitates a shift in energy and perspective.

And sometimes your feelings are just leading you joyously to the path you need to find.

Which is wonderful, but make sure you´re not leading yourself to what you want to see, rather than what´s there.

As we internally re-orient ourselves, we can then come from a more centered place to address the inequalities and larger questions that challenge our world.

This internal work is a healthy prerequisite for effectively engaging with the triggers that surround all of us. It helps us navigate better and to know which battles to choose – and which to avoid at this time.

With the South Node (17 Capricorn) conjunct Saturn (16 Capricorn Rx) at this time, we see a great resurgence of more conservative political structures and their cadres who seek to valorize the old hierarchies. This is happening all over the world: Just look at the news if you´re interested in knowing more. By no means is it limited to any one state.

That doesn´t mean we shouldn´t fight for what is right or turn a blind eye in the face of injustice – it means that this is a better time to observe and allow things to unfold before engaging. It means connecting the dots and seeing how this is a larger phenomenon – and not getting caught up in more parochial concerns / identifications.

The moment we get caught up in the push-and-pull, tug-of-war powerplay dynamic, we already find ourselves caught in a particular role. Observe, witness and wait.

Be prepared and allow your intuitive relationship with yourself, and Spirit – to guide your steps.

Remember that the upcoming Lunar Eclipse (24 Capricorn) also conjuncts Pluto (21 Capricorn Rx), squares Eris (24 Aries) and Haumea (24 Libra). Expect to see major energies coming up for transmutation, be it from the planet, collective human experience – and our own ancestral lineages. There´s some truly dense patterns there that need to be dissolved.

It pays to pay attention to the political decisions and discourses that emerge at this time. They shape the context of what we´re going to have to work on collectively – for some time to come.

Nothing here is set in stone (though it may claim to be) – it´s just useful to know the terrain before taking a stand one way or another.

Remember that this alignment can also manifest in intense seismic and meteorological activity. Be a little more mindful if you live in trouble spots and ensure you´ve got the basics covered.

It also helps to remember that this incredible energy of transition can also facilitate profound rebirth and re-connection with the fertile aspects of the Feminine. All this chaos can lead someplace positive.

Work more so from a place of energy-intention-spirit first, before seeking to engage. Your path will be smoother and the likelihood of success a lot higher.

As today also sees Mars (6 Leo) squared Uranus (6 Taurus), know that there´s a lot of collective aggression and the spark to action coming up at this time. Some operate out of trauma patterning, triggering others into reaction – and less solid states ; Some awaken sparks of insight and breakthrough energy that can lead to (r)evolution.

Being centered in your emotions will help you know which is which.

Remember to breathe deeply. 
Eat / drink / nourish your body well. 
Be mindful of what you have and can be grateful for.

Remember your energy is sovereign and sacred: 
You choose what you give freely, 
You choose what you give as part of a more formal exchange, 
You choose whether you wish to engage or not.

Remember that those who make claims on your energy need to respect your right and needs to regenerate it as required. You do not need to martyr yourself.

Be real, be kind – and that includes being kind to yourself.

I find whale-songs to be especially soothing at this time. Remember to give thanks to their presence and wisdom if you choose to listen as well. (Supporting oceanic conservation efforts is a good idea too)

Blessings,

Dr. Bairavee Balasubramaniam PhD
The Sky Priestess

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TERMS OF USE AND SHARING:

Whilst the work I channel, intuit and figure out ultimately comes from Spirit, it still comes through me-as-co-creative a-divine-spark. For legal purposes I share these terms – and I hope you can understand the energetic basis of doing so. We all have to be honored for what we do, and what we bring. That way we keep things sustainable and in integrity.

This post and text is original research material and is copyrighted. You are allowed to share this material for personal, non-commercial and educational use with the proper citations, references and links / tags back to my website and/or my FB page or profile. Clicking ´Share´ on FB or ´Reblog´ on WordPress would be most appropriate. Please obtain my permission first if you want to use this material on your workshop, blog, organization, webpage, book, seminar or for any commercial purpose. All information provided, be it through sessions conducted or this post is non-liable and is not intended to replace professional legal, medical, psychological, psychiatric and/or financial counsel. How you choose to act on this information is up to your own free will and is entirely your responsibility.

Post & Text © Bairavee Balasubramaniam, 2019. All rights reserved

Image: Omega Nebula. Public domain image via pixabay